23 Ugly Truths You Need To Accept When You’re 23



Being in the age of 23 is nothing but a struggle. Your life is in the gray area since you’ve just graduated from college and maybe you just had your first job. You have no idea what will happen in your life ahead and everything seems confusing as you’ll try to figure out the transition of entering the real adulthood.
Facing changes and transitions can be challenging for most of us and acceptance is the key. Thus, here are some ugly truths that you need to accept when you’re 23:
  1.   You’ll blame yourself for being stuck and jobless.
Having a full-time job is a struggle. Don’t lose hope and keep on going because nobody has earned a success story without being a jobseeker at first.
  1.   You’ll face the challenge to adjust to your new workplace.
When you’ve got your first job, you will learn many new things and realize that you need to start over from the beginning again. Accept the fact that starting over is hard, but it will make you grow wiser.   
  1.   You’ll be separated from your close friends.
Most of your friends will pursue their success stories too. Don’t worry, your real friends will always be present as each of you will go beyond the miles just to keeping up with each other’s lives.
  1.   You’ll be the one who manages your own financial expenses.
Being at the age of 23 means that you need to hold back your shopping desire. Now, you know that it’s hard to earning money as you start to save your income from your first job.
  1.   You’ll be struggling to get your dream job.
More often than not, your first job is not your ideal or a dream job. Your first job is a trial for you to really decide what you’ll pursue as your career path for the next years ahead.    
  1.   And you’ll realize that there is no such thing as a dream job.
Because you’ll understand that every job has its own costs and benefits, even though it is the job that you’ve really wanted since you were a kid.
  1.   You’ll have the feeling of getting lost and confused.
You’ll realize that you are the one who will make every decision for your life and you have countless possibilities ahead of you. It’s totally okay for you to feel lost, because who doesn’t?
  1.   You’ll start to see your friends getting married one by one.
Meanwhile, there you are, sitting and questioning your own existence in this adulthood world.
  1.   You can’t decide your passion in life.
Because when you’re 23, you’re still learning many new things and you haven’t figured out your real passion yet– and it’s okay.
  1. You’ll compare your life to others’.
You’ll see your friends who you think are more successful and it will lower your self-esteem. But, you need to remember that nobody’s life is as perfect as their Instagram feed.
  1. You’ll realize that social media can be toxic.
You may start to hate using social media as everybody is basically just being obsessed with showing off their ‘perfect’ lives. Guess what? You can uninstall it whenever you want.
  1. You’ll have to adjust in the new neighborhood.
Being 23 could possibly mean a new beginning as your first job usually made you move out from your hometown and being separated with your close relatives.
  1. You’ll feel lonely.
Because you’re entering the new stage of life, which is adulthood. Don’t worry, you’ll meet so many new people out there.
  1. You’ll have anxiety that you might make the wrong decisions.
You’ll realize that every decision you’ve made will have their own consequences and having a regret is the last thing you want to have when you’re 23.
  1. And you’ll always afraid of having failures.
Because those wrong decisions could lead you to failures and it’s normal. In the end, if you never try, you’ll never know.
  1. You’ll have the fear of stepping out of your comfort zone.
Being 23 is also about having a war within yourself; a part of you don’t want to leave your own comfort zone, but the other part is craving for new challenges. Always follow the second one.
  1. You’ll need to lower your expectations.
Your 20’s will be full of rejections, failures, and disappointments. Those broken hearts will make you understand that it is important to accept anything that life has to offer.
  1. You’ll realize that you have some issues to be solved.
As you grow older, you’ll understand that you have emotional wounds here and there. Sometimes, you’ll also feel that you’re broken beyond repair.
  1. And you’ll realize that you need to always forgive yourself.
You know exactly that those wounds don’t mean anything but a challenge for you to be kind to yourself. Your 20’s will teach you that self-love is the key to survive this life.
  1. You’ll realize that your parents are getting older.
As you’re busy building your own life, don’t forget that you still have a family that needs to be loved. Don’t be too drawn on having a success story; family comes first.
  1. You’ll need to accept the loss of many people whom you loved.
When you’re 23, you’ll face separations as many people are leaving you behind, having their own lives, or changing into someone you don’t recognize. They are moving on and you should too
  1. You’ll realize that love is not always beautiful.
As you grow older, you’ll realize that love is not as easy as in the movies or songs. Love is hard work. Love is teamwork. Love is being realistic and that’s the truth you need to accept.
  1. You’ll realize that everybody is struggling.
And don’t worry, you’re doing okay.
At the end of the day, no matter how old you are, one ugly truth to always remember is that life will never be easy and it requires hard works. Cheers for our 20’s!  
Feature image via falllenskies
Originally published at Unwritten (January 24, 2018)

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