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Aku salah satu yang lolos dari lubang jarum di padatnya Kota Jakarta. Aku berhasil menjadi mereka yang lebur bersama waktu dengan keahlian menebak apakah tubuh ini mampu terselip di antara celah sesak gerbong kereta setiap Jumat malam.

Aku mulai terbiasa dengan lanskap Ibukota dan membuka perbincangan dengan driver ojek online saat menunggu giliran di setiap lampu merah. Terlalu banyak percakapan. Terlalu banyak kata yang ingin dirangkai. Terlalu sedikit waktu.

Daripada menumpuk pertanyaan untuk semesta tentang berapa nama yang telah pergi, kini aku lebih tertarik dengan perusahaan sebelah yang baru saja beres melakukan akuisisi. Aku lebih memilih untuk terobsesi dengan jumlah pengikut akun maya perusahaan dan mencoba menambahkan beberapa digit dengan menyulap konten di sana-sini.

Menebak hati masing-masing tidak lagi menyenangkan, aku lebih suka terhanyut dalam analisis komentar dari mereka yang aku baca di linimasa. Aku lebih terhibur dengan warganet yang sarkastik daripada menelaah perasaan yang kadang menjelma kembar identik.

Berasumsi tentang bisnis rasanya lebih mudah daripada aku harus meramal seberapa lama sebuah nama akan bertahan di setiap hitungan jam. Kini, aku percaya bahwa kehilangan nama hanyalah sebuah momentum semesta. Fase reinkarnasi. Tanda untuk terlahir kembali.

Tempatku berdiri saat ini membuatku merasa beruntung sekali. Aku sedang dihibur semesta; mereka paham betul bahwa aku tidak ingin merasakan sakit dua kali. Aku tidak lagi begitu peduli apakah namanya akan selamanya pergi atau suatu saat akan mampir kembali.

Sesekali, aku mengintip kepingan waktu yang ia habiskan melalui foto yang biasanya diunggah untuk konsumsi publik. Rasanya, 15 detik adalah waktu yang terlalu lama untuk memahami bahwa ia masih diam di tempat dan tidak bergerak.

Ia masih menolak untuk berpindah dan aku tidak merasa salah dalam mengambil keputusan. Ia tetap sama saja. Mungkin akan tetap begitu. Selamanya. Kita tidak akan pernah berjalan dengan semestinya.

Tenang, aku tidak lagi merasa kecewa. Untuk apa? Ia memilih untuk menjadi sebuah titik dan aku tidak ingin berbalik. Rangkaian kata di tulisan ini sepertinya lebih ditujukan untukku yang tidak juga memaafkan diri sendiri; ini pekerjaan rumah yang sulit sekali.

Aku lebih memilih untuk hanyut di dalam analisis tentang ruwetnya strategi bisnis daripada berurusan dengan hati yang hanya bisa dikendalikan oleh tenaga kosmis. Aku lebih menikmati jam lembur dari Senin hingga Kamis daripada menebak setiap tindakannya dengan mengandalkan berbagai premis.

Ia terlalu rumit. Aku terlalu sakit.

Daripada memupuk ekspektasi, lebih baik aku menjadi spasi dan memilih setiap diksi supaya tidak kentara bahwa untaiannya masih saja berisi refleksi. Aku tidak ingin kembali ke daftar isi. Ternyata, aku mampu mengakhiri suatu edisi yang pernah menjelma adiksi.

Aku mulai mengoleksi berbagai nama yang baru saja datang dan mencoba untuk tidak menjadi pola yang berulang. Aku mulai memaknai definisi dari kata hilang yang tampaknya adalah sebuah kausalitas dari kata menemukan.

Aku ingin pulang. Kamu juga, kan?

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At this moment, I finally could say to myself that I’m genuinely happy with my life and this kind of feeling is the biggest achievement for me so far. Similar to you, I’ve been through a lot of struggles and battles in life and being happy with life has nothing to do with the absence of struggles.

My life is still full of shit, challenges, setbacks, and changes; but I’m truly happy at the same time. This contradiction was confusing for me at first, but I could make sense all of it once I traced back to what I’ve done for these past months. This time, I won’t tell you about being grateful even though it is one of the keys to making you happy.

As I traced back, I realized that I could be this happy about my life because I left the things which weren’t meant to be mine and be mindfully let it all go the way it supposed to be.

A few months ago, I was disappointed by life many times. I was being rejected by some opportunities which I have dreamed of for so long, I couldn’t fit in a job environment which I thought ideal, and I was being left by some of my loved ones because we simply grew apart.

I was depressed, confused, and my faith in life was nowhere to be seen. I tried to fix everything and pull myself together, but life didn’t get any better. Until one moment, I decided to stop.

If life was not giving me the things which I’ve put my best effort into, then those things weren’t meant to be mine; maybe, I deserve better than all of those things that were supposed to be gone.

I started to let my life unfold by itself. It wasn’t easy at first, but I began to lower my expectations toward life as I tried my best to accept the reality and the disappointments as well.

I knew I was broken here and there, but I’ve decided to make some huge decisions all at once; I quit my job and left someone whom I loved the most, simply because he was emotionally abusing my well-being. At that moment, I was breaking the cycle, which made me suffer, and it became one of the lowest points in my life. It was difficult to stand tall once again, but surprisingly, I did.

After that difficult turning point, I started to cut some toxic people out of my life and I started to pursue the things which I really love instead of following those society success standards. Slowly but surely, I tried to open myself to the things which life has to offer without me forcing it to happen.

Surprisingly, I now have a job in a company that gives me the freedom to do what I love, I meet countless inspiring and generous people along the way, and I found someone new to love again.

You see, sometimes when you try to let everything happen the way it is, the universe will show you the best way. Most of the time, we are too obsessed with getting the things that we once thought were ideal and good for us, while actually, maybe all of those things are bad for our lives.

Forcing the things that were never meant to be yours will only make you hurt. You need to have faith that every loss will lead you to other things that are better for you. Not to mention that you don’t have to be worried about those who left you behind because those who truly love you will always stay without being asked.

At the end of the day, you need to always remember that what’s meant to be yours will never pass you by.

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Originally published at Thought Catalog (March 12th, 2018)

What’s Meant To Be Yours Will Never Leave

In today’s complex business world, we can no longer rely on strategies that have worked in the past. Nowadays, the business world needs more people who thrive on change and can make sense of uncertainty.

I’ve just worked in a unicorn startup company in Indonesia, where changes are always almost happening in many aspects of the business every time, and I’ve learned that there is the main key to achieve success in today’s kinetic business environment; learning agility.

According to the research team at Teachers College, Columbia University, learning agility is a mindset and corresponding collection of practices that allow us to continually develop, grow, and utilize new strategies that will equip us for the complex problems in our organizations.

People who are learning agile have the willingness to learn from experience and then apply that learning to perform successfully in a completely new situation in their organizations.

Simply put, a learning-agile individual is someone who has the ability to learn new things and easily adapt to changes and make the most of it.

Based on the Korn Ferry research, learning agility is now the single best predictor of executive success, even above intelligence and education. The people who are agile learners tend to get promoted faster and achieve more as they tend to be more social, creative, focused and resilient.

On the other hand, people who don’t possess learning agility tend to derail their success because they over-rely on past solutions, ignorance to their own faults and feedbacks, or simply quit learning.

Everyone is potential to be a learning-agile person since it is an ability which could be developed over time. According to the Learning Agility Assessment Inventory (LAAI) which has developed by the research team at Columbia University, there are four facets that enable one’s learning agility;

1. Innovating

People who are questioning many things, challenging the status quo, and trying to explore countless new ways of doing things tend to be the strong agile individuals. When being confronted with new experiences or obstacles, someone who is learning-agile will generate new ideas and view the issues from multiple angles.

For each problem you’ll face, try to challenge yourself to come up with new solutions. Try to make a breakthrough and believe that by trying out new approaches, you can uncover ways of doing things more effectively.

2. Performing

When being faced with unfamiliar challenges, people with learning agility will able to remain present and engaged. They will able to handling the stress by adapting quickly and perform. They are not only having excellent observation and listening skills, but also the ability to process data immediately.

You can start by asking questions to understand rather than always trying to be understood and when you’re facing a new challenge, try to look for similarities from the past and frame it to the new situations.

3. Reflecting

People with learning agility will seek feedback and evaluate themselves every once in a while. They understand that what they’ve done were not always the right thing to do and they spend focused energy to process the feedback in order to understand better about their assumptions and behaviors.

From now on, find someone who you trust and ask them to give you open and honest feedback. Try not to deny the feedback and ask them to always remind you every time you’ll tend to relapse in your old bad habits.

4. Risking

A comfort zone is not something familiar to people with learning agility as they will always involve themselves out there to try new things. As described by the research team, learning-agile individuals are adventurous and comfortable with the progressive risk that leads to opportunity.

They are not afraid of failures as they see mistakes as a lesson learned. If you want to be a learning-agile individual, try to take on a new challenge that scares you but develop your actualization as well. Be brave of doing something new and be resilient of facing obstacles and setbacks.

Other than those four facets of a learning-agile person, there is one facet that will be a ‘derailer’ of learning agility. This facet is avoiding someone for being a learning-agile person, which is defending.

People who are not learning-agile tend to remain closed or being defensive when challenged or given critical feedback. They are not seeking feedback and failing to adapt to a new situation or problem. One thing to avoid this facet is changing your perspective on the feedback. Try to see feedback as a gift even though you may not like it and try to resist the temptation to respond to feedback, especially at first.

In the end, learning agility is not only for those people who are working in the business world as all of us need to be learning-agile individuals. Learning agility will extensively help us to face new challenges, problems, and issues as it is something that leads us to continually learn and adapt in today’s complex world.

We can all endeavor to be more learning agile as long as we allow ourselves to innovate and be brave about getting out from a comfort zone, perform while ensuring to always reflect in ourselves, and always view those critics as a gift instead of defending it.

Always remember that you can learn great things from your mistakes when you’re not busy denying them.

Featured image via chapterfriday

Originally published at Thrive Global (March 15th, 2018)

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